Whitney’s Top 10 Life Lessons

| June 16, 2014 | 0 Comments

1. Don’t take it personally!

Everyone is doing the best they can based on their values and what’s happening in their own lives. Forgiveness and understanding can have great healing power.

2. Everyone views the world differently.

To understand someone else’s perspective, try to repeat back what you hear them saying in your conversations. This takes practice and patience but helps avoid any miscommunication.

3. Loss is VERY difficult.

When I would lose a job or a friend, my mom used to tell me “it’s God’s way of saying it’s time to move on to the next thing.” While it’s not easy, I have learned to embrace times of loss in my life, recognizing that they can create space for new energy and new opportunities.

4. The questions you ask yourself direct your thoughts and emotions.

Pay attention to the conversations that go on in your own mind. Before reacting or responding, ask yourself these questions: Does this thought serve me? What else could it mean? What am I grateful for? This helps to reduce the emotional energy and allows you to focus on what’s important.

5. Non-emotional communication is power.

When you communicate with emotion, people have trouble hearing your words and intentions. Take a deep breath, slow down, and think about what you are trying to communicate and the impact your words will have on the other person.

6. The power of silence and brevity.

Like a radio commercial, you can have a greater impact using fewer words. A pregnant pause and silence are also incredible tools to use when presenting and listening.

7. Communication is everything in a relationship.

Try being interested instead of interesting. When you take the time to be curious and ask questions, you’ll be amazed at the great conversations you’ll have.

8. Role Models

Each of us has the power to be a role model for someone else. Think about the impact your words and actions have on those around you. What do you represent? How do you want to be viewed? You have the opportunity to help others move forward through their fear and achieve their goals.

9. Comparative Reality

We live in a comparative reality society. While someone else is talking, we want to interrupt and say, “Yes I had something just like that happen to me.” However to be an effective coach or even just a good friend, you need to pay attention, really listen and then validate the other person’s experience and feelings without thinking about your own.

10. The Black Dot

When something goes wrong, I have found that my mind will often start focusing on the negative – the problems and drama. However, if I stop and ask myself some simple questions, I can shift where I put my focus and energy and then create what I want instead of focusing on what I don’t want.

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Whitney Kell became an entrepreneur at 18 when she received her Real Estate License in Portland, OR. Life brought her to a town Edwardsville, IL where the broker opened up the white pages and told her call everyone in this book and celebrate the no's it brings you closer to the yeses. She sold 3 homes in 6 months but realized Real Estate was not for her she did some soul searching and decided to move back to the West Coast - California. She worked dozens of jobs Nordstrom in La Jolla, CA for several years while attending community college she learned about building relationships and giving great customer service. Her mom became ill when she was in college so she decided to take a job selling lap top memory for a company in Escondido, California. After developing several large accounts she was recruited by a technology recruiting company and quickly became the #1 sales person in her division. Then she moved into a real estate technology company where she traveled extensively with a large territory. After September 11th she rediscovered an interest in doing a business that had meaning and purpose and her passion to be an entrepreneur. Her partner Greg Rex became her mentor and health coach after he lost 50 lbs on The Take Shape For Life Program in March of 2001. She quickly decided after having her own health experience and coaching a few clients on this program this was what she wanted to do for a living. She worked closely with the parent company and helped them grow from a 5 Mil a year company to a 150 million dollar company and it was named one of the fastest growing 4 years in a row in the US. Whitney has coached thousands to a better life physically, mentally, and financially. She has become a role model for other people who want more in their lives and their families. She gives to children's charities every year and looks forward to doing more to support others in a journey to a better life. A life of meaning and purpose which feeds our souls so we can stay grounded in this fast paced technology based life style.

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